My bachelorette party is this weekend and I am very upset with my bridal party?

I had originally told my Maid of Honor that I wanted to get a party bus, since we had a lot of girls going. She contacted them all months ago and told them what part of the plan would be and an approx cost for this party bus. Just about all the girls who were invited said they were in without a doubt. Now, things have changed, more than half of the girls backed out b/c now its "too expensive" and they cant afford it. So we have downgraded to a 8 passenger limo and some of the other girls are just going to drive into New York City for the dinner and whatever else is planned for the evening. Now one of my bridesmaids said she could get a van (2 days before the party) and its not a party van, its just a rental van.


My question is, should I be upset that we were originally getting a party bus and then a limo and now a van?

My bachelorette party is this weekend and I am very upset with my bridal party?
Well that is a tough question. On one instance you did tell your maid of honor that you wanted a bus and usually the bachelorette party is thrown for you by your closest friends as a tradition before you marry you should just be happy with the party they give for you and let them plan it. On the other hand if you told her about it and she went along with it before and has gone and changed it all then maybe you should be upset somewhat. In the end if everyone gets to the party safe and has a good time then thats what really matters is celebrating your upcoming wedding.





Congrats and Good Luck
Reply:No, it's only a bachelorette party. Just go with the flow and enjoy the night.
Reply:If the bridesmaids were told originally what the cost would be for each person and they still signed on for it, then yes. But I have the feeling they had no idea. If you are upset thats a fact. But I hope you can realize that people dont have unlimited money. Its very expensive to be a bridesmaid. I would try to be happy about those who are able to attend. Try to look at the overall picture of your marriage and not at the details. This is not probably the only thing that will go wrong, so you might want to get a different attitude about the entire plans and try to go with the flow so to speak. Otherwise you will have an unhappy wedding. I know you are stressed but this is all brought on by wedding protocols that really do not need to be happening( a few decades ago, no one even had bachelorette parties) Best wishes for a happy smile on your face the rest of the way through until after the wedding.....and beyond
Reply:No, don't be upset. Be grateful you still have ANY friends.
Reply:Yea I agree with some of the others....just chill. Enjoy your friends and the fact that you're about to go through one of the best times in your life. It should be about the tangible things, but about the intangible things--friendship and love.
Reply:You should be upset at what you have become - selfish and unappreciative. Your friends are doing something nice for you and throwing you a party to celebrate your life milestone. The fact that you are making demands on what they should do and how much they should pay is an indication of what type of person you are.





Make sure to tell all your friends how much you appreciate what they are doing for you (whatever they end up doing) and be happy.
Reply:No offense, but it probably was too expensive. You should just enjoy having a night out with your friends.





I don't really know a nice way to say this: It's just in bad taste to get upset because the party your friends are nice enough to throw for you isn't as lavish as you would like. "Downgraded to an 8 passenget limo..?" sheesh!
Reply:OMG - stop being a bridezilla! Just enjoy your night out and be glad you don't have to drive. Geez
Reply:The means of your transportation should not take away from the fun and enjoyment of the night out. You should not force your friends to spend more than they are comfortable with.
Reply:Are you going to have less fun because you arrive in a van? If the answer is yes, then I can see why you're upset. And it is tacky that girls back out at the last minute. However, really try to not let this bother you. If you can still have fun while you're there, why let it effect how you arrived. As long as the van isn't going to be a horrible experience.
Reply:Yes because everybody said they would do it. What the Maid of Honor should have done was got the money when she mentioned it to them when they all agreed. She should have said, "ok, I need the money within the next week". So you would have this stress; you're freaking getting married! So I think ya'll should get the limo, even if you have to get 2 or 3; it's cuter and more classy than a van. They can do it. My sister got a limo for she and I for my 21st birthday in december and she was only making like $7/hr. so I know your girls can pull together and get a couple of limos for yall to go out and have fun. I hope everything works out well, and congradulations.
Reply:Umm...I think you need to get over yourself BIG TIME, Bridezilla!





All that matters is that you are able to arrive safely from point A to point B. Who cares how you get there?
Reply:I think you should be happy that they even want to be near you. I mean, that's pretty selfish of you not to care if they can afford it or not. Just be happy you have friends and a man that loves you and is going to marry you. Have fun with your friends that night, appreciate that they are there for you.
Reply:Should you be upset??? Absolutly not! We are talking a huge expense with a limo or party bus. What difference should it make how you get there, what should matter is whether or not you have a good time.


Life is too darn short to sweat little piddly junk like this!
Reply:While you can make suggestions as to what you would like, its ultimately up to your bridal party what is planned for the bachelorette party. I would guess that what happened is this: Stoked about the idea of a party bus, looked into it, found out how freakin expensive it is, after bridal shower and dresses and gifts, everyone is broke from paying for all your wedding celebrations. Get over it. Not worth being upset about it. At least they still want to give you a party at all. A lot of bridesmaids could care less whether they throw a bachelorette party or not. You should be grateful, not selfish. Frankly, you sound like a spoiled bridezilla brat with those kind of expectations. These are your friends. Try to be a little more gracious.
Reply:I think your being a little B*tchey
Reply:You shouldn't have dictated the party transportation in the first place.





It's always thoughtful when the maid of honor consults briefly with the bride about what sort of activity she'd enjoy for the party, but it is the host's call how everyone gets there. Also, the party must fit the pocketbooks of the people throwing it. If they cannot afford a party bus, they cannot afford a party bus and that's that.





Keep in mind these women have bought dresses, shoes, any accessories you've dictated, and gifts for your wedding. While I'm sure they don't begrudge these purchases, they've also probably put a significant hole in everyone's finances already.





It may not be what you hoped for, but the van will get everyone there and it's still filled with the same people as the party bus would have been, so what's the problem?





Let go of the party bus idea and enjoy the party you get.
Reply:Wait, I'm confused. You're upset because they can't afford it? It's not like that's their fault! It's not like they're purposely trying to disappoint you! At least you're having a party! You should be thankful that you have friends who care enough about you that they are still trying their best to help you have a good time. Because you certainly don't deserve them if you're upset about something like that.
Reply:you should just be happy they have something planned for you and stop being so selfish!


not everyone is made out of money!!
Reply:No, don't be upset. Just go ahead and have a great time with all your friends. There is so much stress involved in arranging a wedding that it's better to go with the flow over this. Hope the wedding goes ok too and you and the groom have a wonderful marriage.
Reply:You should be happy they're doing anything at all for you. Maybe when they agreed to pay they had more money at that time and situations have changed...or maybe they didn't save appropriatly for it...there are lots of reasons why they can't currently afford it. They are already shelling out money for a dress and shoes and jewelry and your bridal shower and whatever else you have required of them, so let it go. The point of the bachelorette party is to have one last sort of party night with the girls...so enjoy your friendships with them and go on bicycles if you have to!
Reply:I can understand that you are dissapointed, but sadly a lot of people talk more than they should. Most probably didn't think the whole bus idea was going to happen to begin with. It is annoying that people back out of their word but don't get too angry... it happens. Just focus on having a good time.





The girls who pay for the limo to stick with the limo. The other girls who back out should be informed that there is a van that they can travel in. Tell them that you want to have a good time and you want them to share this day with you.
Reply:Why would you want to be upset and then be standing at the altar thinking how upset you are with your bridal party rather than concentrating on this amazing moment of marrying the man you love? Be glad that your friends are there, no matter how they get there or what kind of vehicle you are in.
Reply:Yes, I would be upset too. I cannot stand when people agree with something and then later back out of it. You should have gotten the money up front, that way there were totally committed to the bus. This is suppose to be a happy time for you, you shouldn't have to be dealing with people who is not considerate.

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