Am I a loser if I don't party or drink? I never get invited to parties, I haven't been to a party in a while

Like I mean literally, I don't party at all, I haven't been to a real college party yet. I've never been to a Halloween Costume party, Lingerie party, black and white party, Super Bowl party. I've never been to a party in Santa Barbara or San Diego, I've basically never been to a typical all-white people party, or a party where there are no ghetto people, like people who don't talk like this "whats up homie?, whats up dogg?", people who dress baller, hip-hop. I am not racist, I don't judge people by their skin color. I am cool with anyone of any race, just as long as they are not ghetto. I don't have any party friends. Man, and I am 20, there are tons of people who have been to loads of parties at age 18 and 19, and under, and I haven't, man I'm so jealous of them, because they get to have fun all the time hooking up with hot random people. I know that parties are not everything, it's just that I wanna meet new people, and parties are one the best way, and most hot girls go to parties.

Am I a loser if I don't party or drink? I never get invited to parties, I haven't been to a party in a while
i think no


i am also like you, but i like me being a loser.


I don't know why for me, loser means winner.
Reply:i would say yes your are.


not to be mean or anything but that's just sad
Reply:you're not a loser if you don't drink or go to parties. Many college parties can get out of control sometimes and may cause neighbors to come knocking at the college homes to tell them to turn the music down or they'll call the cops. To tell you the truth, I've been to some parties, but not all. But I don't go to them because I don't feel like it. Don't feel bad about yourself just because you have never been to a party in your life.
Reply:Why would you want to?
Reply:Man, just go witha few friends to one of the bigger universities there. Im in san diego and everytime i pass by sdsu on my work route i see loads of frat girls and stuff at the frat houses. Just go there and make some new friends witha few people,ask around and voila your in.





I myself always hated the party atmosphere but my bro liked it. If your looking for a brainless drunk bimbo just to have fun with then parties are great but if your looking for a real woman you wont find many at parties.
Reply:well I am a girl and I only been to two parties or three some are not totally fun at all!! And drinking you get sick of it in a while.But you don't have to drink or go to parties to be cool just like every body else.You are your own person and you can be what ever you want to be.Your not a loser!And you don't have to drink at a party to be cool,And You can do so many different things with your life instead of drinking.You can go to the library or you can go to a club called elixers that is in marshfield,WI.Or you can go onto myspace.com you can meet really cool and nice people there to and you will certainly make friend.Because I did.It was really cool.You can meet all different people.well hope this helps you out.good luck.
Reply:Of cource your not a loser! Do you honestly want to meet a girl at a party whos probally drunk and wont remeber it later on? Who cares if you don't party!
Reply:hey guy, your not a loser if u don't drink n party, it's just things you don't do. If you do want to you must get out there! grab a friends and just go do it! think about iy. You only live once.. Go out there and get those girls talk to people even if you don't know them! if they don't like you hey it's not like you have to see them again! I'm not saying try everything but just get out there!!!
Reply:We are in the same boat my friend, I am 18 tho. You are 20 my dude, I would advise that on your 21st bday that you go wild n out, feel me ?
Reply:Yo I was just 19 and have been to quite a few, especially since i started college. You should consider joining a frat if you go to a university, thats what im doing next semester.








Also, work out, and get better looking. If you look good, you'll automatically get more attention. I know it sounds superficial, and i'm not trying to brag, but to some extent its worked for me. The key is you still have to be cool and not cant be an *** to people or they still wont like you despite good looks.





Also, if you manage to work up the confidence, try getting a part-time job at abercrombie or hollister. I've worked at both and i cannot tell you how many hot girls i've slept with lol. you can also make some good friends there and a lot of buddies.





If thats not you, even a part-time job at a grocery store or anywhere where theres people around your age there should be drinking and party opportunities.Every job i've ever had in high school from Target to Giant i was getting numerous invites to parties....and i wasnt even that outgoing....but yea dude as long as ur a chill guy which it sounds like you are, i don't see why people wouldnt be inviting you.








Another idea would be to take up a sport. Even if you lack natural athletic ability, you could join an inturmural(i'd reccomend swimming or track if you dont have a whole lot of hand-eye coordination) or working out and you'd make some buddies who you could maybe chill with. If you live by the beach, take up surfing lessons it's honestly the best thing i've ever done and it actually is the most tranquilizing hobby and the best thing in my life! . But yea i know how ya feel its gay seein everyone else having fun and you feeling like your trapped in the house like a middle schooler. I was in the same boat as u about 4 years ago, and I just decided I couldn't take it anymore and I decided it was time for a change. If I think of anything else i'll come back, and NO you're not a loser for not drinking and smoking, you're actually a lot better off in the long run lol. good luck man.
Reply:You are in college...you should definitely party





Although it is true - parties are not everything, but they do make life much more fun and interesting.





And sorry, I would also say it is kind of sad that you have not partied...but you still have time!