My Own Party?

My mothers birthaday is today, my aunts is tomorrow and mine is saturday. I have a sisiter who's bithday is 1/3. Here is the promblem we always have one big party. I want my own party. I was going to throw my self a party this year but no one is going to show up because they'll be at the big party. I started planning my party on my birthday weeks ago. They just decided to throw the big party on my birthday yesterday. Am I being selfish to want my own party? Would it be wrong to ask them to move the date of the big party?

My Own Party?
You are not selfish at all!! My birthday is 12/24 can you imagine the grief I had growing up? Never a party cause everybody was doing the Christmas thing.It was always " Oh, yeah, happy birthday, could you grab something from under the tree, i am just so busy." Go with your gut, if you want a party and they won't change it, go somewhere and have a nice dinner(by yourself if you have to) grab a friend and go to a club or just stay @ home take a bubble bath, have a glass of wine and listen to your favorite tunes. rent a movie you've been wanting to see and watch it. Hey, I feel like i'm the queen of trying to get a party of my own on christmas eve.
Reply:I would suggest discussing your feelings with them at least a week or two before the party, maybe more so that they can change their plans. Asking them to do it two days before the party is unfair and yes, it's selfish, but if you give them time to make arrangements a while before the party is planned then it is a reasonable request. Everyone deserves a day to feel special.
Reply:I get that 2-in-1 party thing, too. Sometimes, it's best to go along with the big party. But, why don't you have *your* party on a different weekend, maybe make it your special weekend every year? You can even celebrate your birthday *month* instead of just one day, if you time it right....one party at the beginning to kick it off and one at the end of the month to wrap it up. :-) How cool is that?





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